Some questions need more than a session.
Writing has always been part of my work.
The questions I explore with clients often follow me outside the therapy room into books, essays, teaching, and conversations.
Some things are easier to understand when we talk about them. Others need time.
A book gives us that time.
Still Here: A Memoir of Belonging
A story about displacement, home, and finding your way back to yourself.
Still Here is my personal exploration of belonging.
It begins with displacement during the Yugoslav war and follows the long and sometimes complicated process of trying to understand what home means when the place you once called home is no longer the same and when you realise that belonging isn't only about where you live.
It is also about your relationship with yourself, with your body, with other people and with the life you are trying to build.
I wrote this book because I know what it is like to carry questions of belonging for a long time.
Because I have come to believe that belonging is not simply something we find but something we participate in creating.
The Good Hypnotherapist
Laying the Foundations of Competence and Confidence
This book came from a very different part of my work.
It is written for practitioners who want to become genuinely good at what they do.
There is a lot of focus in therapeutic training on learning techniques and, of course, techniques matter.
But knowing what to do is not the same as knowing when to do it, how to do it, or what to do when the session doesn't go according to plan.
Good therapeutic work requires knowledge, skill, judgement, self-awareness, presence, and the ability to remain grounded in the room with another person.
The Good Hypnotherapist is my attempt to explore those foundations.
It is the kind of book I would have wanted someone to give me when I was learning.
What I'm writing now
I'm currently working on a new book, which continues many of the questions explored in Still Here.
I'm also working on another project exploring displacement and identity across different timelines.
Alongside the books, I write about belonging, Adlerian psychology, therapeutic presence, transpersonal work, and the questions that sit underneath much of our inner lives.
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The questions underneath everything
Although the books are different, they are connected by many of the same questions:
Who are we when the roles we have built our lives around no longer fit?
What does it mean to belong?
How much of ourselves do we give up in order to feel connected?
What does it take to become more fully ourselves without becoming disconnected from everyone else?
And how do we learn to stay present with the complexity of being human?
Those questions are likely to keep appearing in my work for a long time.